That it, precisely. The response to the old ‘think about new chiiiildren' shaming isn’t to operate on other-direction having ‘whatev, they shall be fine, maybe even better off”. LW and T do not have students, it seems, and thus LW may not be aware that the absolute logistics off their stop the marriage with T is actually way distinct from M's conclude his relationship.
If some thing, I gained inside my stepmom's debts
I agree totally that splitting up isn't really usually the very last thing...